Once upon a time, the Creator wanted to hide something from the humans until they were ready for it. It was the realization that they create their own reality.
The Eagle said, “Give it to me; I will take it to the moon.”
The Creator said, “No, one day they will go there and find it.”
The Salmon said, “I will bury it in the bottom of the ocean.”
The Creator was not convinced, “No, they will go there too.”
The Buffalo said, “I will bury it in the Great Plains.”
The Creator said, “No, they will cut into the skin of the Earth and find it even there.”
Then the Grandmother, who lives in the breast of Mother Earth and has no physical eyes but sees with spirit, said, “Put it inside them.”
And so that was done.
This story is a reminder that you are not here to live a life that does not inspire you. You are here to create a life that inspires beyond measure!
We are all here to elevate the vibration of this planet we call home. But the way we choose to do it is unique to each one of us. And that path is your Dharma.
But what is Dharma?
Your Dharma is who you are. Your Dharma is not so much about what you do but how you do it. Your Dharma is the truest expression of who you are. Your Dharma is your soul’s purpose. Dharma is the purpose that we chose when we came to this planet because we all needed to fulfill these specific aspects that the world needed to come into balance. Dharma is first understanding who you are and then taking aligned action in accordance with it.
That said, your Dharma is NOT your career. Following your Dharma doesn’t mean sticking to doing the same thing. It’s about doing something because it calls to you and then moving on to the next thing when it’s time to do so. So, for example, if your Dharma is to create beauty, you could do it as a graphic designer, or a florist, or a hairstylist. And you can transition through multiple roles in one lifetime while still living your Dharma.
Why should you live your Dharma?
Most of us live our lives feeling numb. We eat food, but we’re still hungry. We scroll, but we’re still searching. We have success, but no satisfaction. What we forget is that our external reality reflects our internal world.
Dissonance with who we are, creates discord in life. And then we chase momentary highs to try and distract ourselves, to stop feeling like there is a void in our lives. But the truth is that there is only ONE way to fill this void. Only one way to feel completely ALIVE. And that way is to live your Dharma.
When you’re living in alignment with your Dharma, there is no separation between the outer and inner you. Every aspect of your life is a conscious choice. You are tapped into an endless stream of creativity, passion, and inspiration, which is the cosmos running through you.
How I found my Dharma
When I was around 21 years old, my body went into perimenopause. The doctors told me I would never be able to have children, and my body was completely
shutting down. I had all sorts of issues, from insomnia to IBS, and the doctors just kept prescribing me more and more medications. I was taking everything – from antidepressants to digestive pills to hormone supplements. And I just knew that LIFE could not be like that.
So, I went deep into research. I looked for answers in ancient healing sciences; and found Ayurveda. For the first time, I had found something that described all of me. And I was fascinated. This study helped me understand myself at a deeper level and gave me the courage to embody who I was. I knew I had found my calling and that my Dharma was to bring this ancient Vedic philosophy into the modern world so that it can go hand in hand with today’s lifestyle.
That sounds great! But how do I find my Dharma?
Your Dharma is something unique to you, and no one can tell you what it is. What I can do is to guide you on a path to Discover your Dharma.
- Find out what comes naturally to you
The more you know yourself, the more your Dharma will naturally emanate from your life. You could be doing the same thing as several other people – write books, style hair, create something of beauty, create deeper connections, solve problems – the difference lies in how you do it. What is the magic sauce that YOU bring into the world? What are the things that get you excited?
Take time to really ask yourself, “what are the natural gifts I was born with, and what are the modalities I am best in offering them.” For example, your natural gift may be to help people with relationship issues, but you find that a long coaching conversation drains you out. On the other hand, writing calms you, brings out a flow in you. So maybe your Dharma wants to express your natural gift through the modality of writing instead of speaking.
It doesn’t mean that every single idea you have must become a career. But it’s important to know what excites you. Excitement is like breadcrumbs guiding you towards your Dharma. You may not find it immediately, but a year or even ten years down the line, something will just click. But it’s really important to follow these interests, see them as nudges coming from the divine and then notice where this red thread takes you.
And when you get back on the highway to your Dharma – you’ll know. Then everything will be in a state of Flow. What you’ll experience is Kriya, the Universe guiding you and creating synchronicities that make everything just fall in place. Things that you didn’t believe you could do or could happen to you, like meeting the right person at the right time, which takes you to the next place in your journey.
Here’s a quick technique that will help you find your natural gifts:
– Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns
– In one column, write down all your interests, however random or unrelated they may feel like
– In the second column, write down the different jobs you’ve had or roles that you have played
– Next, see if you can link your list in column 1 with that in column 2. If you find a link, connect the two with a red line
– When you are done, look for patterns. Is there an interest that reflects across multiple roles that you have played? That is an indicator of your natural gift.
Another way to do it is through meditation. I spoke about that in my conversation with Vishen Lakhiani on the MindValley podcast. Give it a listen here
- Find out what you are ashamed of
Did you know that often the things that we’re the most ashamed about are the things that really set us apart? For the longest time, I hid the part of me that loves to dance – that enjoys being in vibration with the music. I did that because I thought dance doesn’t fit in with what I am talking about. I thought connecting dance to Ayurveda and Dharma would look silly. But whenever I let that side of me peep through, I found that people connected with me more. And today, I am dancing my way to my Dharma!
So, if you can’t identify your natural gifts, then think about what are the things you hide from the world, what is your weird quirk, and there you might find the answers you are looking for.
When you feel an irresistible pull towards something, give it a chance. The Universe will not steer you wrong. Surrender to the Universe, feel your heart’s desire – and go after it. That is the path to your Dharma.
- Discover your Dharma Blueprint
I created the Dharma Blueprint to give you an actionable direction to live your purpose. It’s a 5-stage process that points you to action aligned with your purpose based on your Dharma Archetype™, the medium that naturally flows through you, the things you get excited about, the obstacles you have overcome or helped others overcome, and your superpower. Together these five elements create your roadmap to your Dharma and help you shift gears as you move through life. Read more about these elements in my recent guide on how to find your purposes >>
- Identify your Dharma with your Doshas (Ayurveda)
Ayurveda classifies souls within three Doshas – Vata, Pitta, and Kapha – and each of them has a particular dharma. We’re all a combination of all three in varying degrees and some that dominate.
- Vata is air energy – that of creation and ideation – and people with a dominant Vata are creative thinkers, trendsetters, and artistic.
- Pitta is fire energy – that of execution – and people with a dominant pitta are sharp, goal-oriented, and go-getters. They are organized and disciplined and like having reusable systems and tools.
- Kapha is earth energy, and people with dominant Kapha are grounded; they care about connection and have stability and anchoring in their being. Some examples of people with Kapha energy are Lisa Nicholas, Oprah, and Eckhart Tolle.
You can find your Dharma by identifying your Dosha. You can do this by answering a few simple questions in my Dosha quiz. Take the FREE Dosha Quiz>>
Awakening your Dharma
2020 has been incredibly challenging. These past months the whole world has been experiencing a transition. Everywhere people are questioning the things they accepted as truths. Do I even need to go back to this job? Do I even like what I am doing? Can I live somewhere else where I am more in alignment with myself?
Even as you ask yourself these questions, you will find yourself challenged – by old beliefs, systems, and yes, even your loved ones. But you need these obstacles; you need them to gain the strength to embody your Dharma. To be so certain of yourself that you are willing to walk through fire to continue on the path to your Dharma. The dharmic path is not always easy, but it is 100% always worth it.
Remember, no one can tell you what your Dharma is because they don’t have the same context to life. They are looking at life and possibilities from their own lens. They might be afraid of following their own purpose or may have never even explored it. When they reflect their experience on you, it might derail your journey. So be careful of whom you seek advice from. Trust that your Dharma will take you exactly where you need. Allow yourself to unfold to who you are becoming and celebrate each stage of your journey, knowing it’s preparing you for the next.
There is nothing more sacred than pouring your energy into your Dharma and experiencing the expansion and alignment that comes with it. Imagine how different your life would be if you took back every minute that you give to what/who doesn’t serve you and instead transitioned it to only focus on what makes you shine your brightest.
If you are ready to Discover your Dharma, join me in this exhilarating journey that is life!