Have you ever felt like your biggest fear is public speaking.. But it’s also your greatest desire? You know you have an important message to share but you judge your voice and feel like you aren’t ready to share it.
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Episode #482: How To Open Up Your Throat Chakra + Speak with Soul with Sahara Rose
By Sahara Rose
Having your dream life, your desire met, your dharma, the love that you really crave, really is on the other side of you becoming your clear communicator.
So, why is speaking so important? So, our throat chakra, if you look at the chakra system, our throat is our ability to express our inner world to the outer world. So, you have your own inner reality, your inner reality is your emotions, it’s your intuition, it’s your perception, it’s what you see the world as, and our life, our quality of life, becomes greater when we’re able to match our inner world with our outer world. However, most people have a hard time communicating what that inner world is. They have a hard time speaking their truth, they have a hard time expressing their emotions, they have a hard time putting their thoughts into words that could be understood by another person. So, they have this inner reality that no one around them is aware of. And what happens is, then you start to feel a separation that “I’m not being authentic to me”, “I don’t have the relationships that I want”, “I don’t have the career that I want”, “I don’t have the friends that I want”, “I’m not being met”, and you become resentful. Maybe you’re even getting shame around not feeling authentic in your life, and then that begins to putrefy, it adds and adds, and you get more and more in that shame and guilt, and that sadness, and that feeling unmet bucket, and then it becomes your life and then you become more distant, and more avoidant, and more unable to express your truth, when really, what you needed was to share it, that’s why they say it “The truth will set you free”.
Hi, it’s Sahara Rose, and welcome back to The Highest Self Podcast, a place where we discuss what makes you, your soul’s, highest evolvement.
I’m really excited for this Episode because it has been one of my most requested, and it’s ‘How Can I Truly Speak with Soul?’.
So, for those of you who are new to this Podcast, I have been hosting it for the past, almost, 7 years now, and it has been my greatest life’s work. I have had conversations with so many inspirational people, from Sadhguru, to Deepak Chopra, to Marianne Williamson, Don Miguel Ruiz, but really, what has driven this Podcast forward and has made it become the number one in the spirituality category on iTunes, with over 35 million downloads, are the Solocasts, and my ability to be able to just show up in front of a camera and share with you.
And a lot of you have asked me “How are you able to do that?”, “How are you able to just, essentially, channel in front of the camera and speak from your heart with such clarity and precision, while also feeling grounded, and relatable, and not like it’s like scripted?”, because it’s not, I’m actually just talking to you. And I have learned so much about speaking through having this Podcast and through listening to my own conversations with people, and also studying the art of speaking. And that’s why I’m really excited to have put together my very first course, sharing all of this wisdom with you, called Speak with Soul.
So, this is a 21-day journey that takes you from feeling, maybe, unconfident in your speaking, to fully showing up, shining your light. And I actually guide you, step by step, to have the confidence enough to record your own podcast intro.
So, whether you are interested in speaking for your career, such as speaking on stages one day, or you’re a coach or healer and you feel like you would gain more clients from speaking and being able to show up more online, or you just want to speak to people in your life in a more clear way, having more deep, meaningful conversations with friends, with lovers, with partners, and just feeling more heard, the Speak with Soul Course is for you.
So, it is available right now, we have a special discount price, so, you can head over to speakwithsoulcourse.com to learn more about it. I’m super excited to be sharing it with you guys, because this course, the results I have seen are tremendous. I have had students who have always felt they had this lifelong block in their throat chakra go on Instagram Live and actually start Instagram Live series where they’re interviewing people, because they feel so empowered.
So, if you’re interested and curious, it’s a really low ticket, affordable course, so it’s really for anyone, whether you have some speaking experience, no speaking experience, or maybe you even have a podcast, you want to take it to the next level, it really offers everything that I know about speaking to get you started and to get your voice and your message heard out in the world, because it is so deeply needed at this time.
So, again, head over to speakwithsoulcourse.com and I’m super excited to see you there!
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So, on the topic of speaking, that’s what we’re going to be jamming about on today’s Episode. So, I’m going to be taking you through some of the tips and tools that I have learned through speaking, that I dive more into in the Speak with Soul Course, so you can start to really understand the importance of speaking and why it is the missing link to having your dream life, your desires met, your dharma, the love that you really crave, really is on the other side of you becoming your clear communicator.
So, why is speaking so important? So, our throat chakra, if you look at the chakra system, our throat is our ability to express our inner world to the outer world. So, you have your own inner reality, your inner reality is your emotions, it’s your intuition, it’s your perception, it’s what you see the world as, and our life, our quality of life, becomes greater when we’re able to match our inner world with our outer world. However, most people have a hard time communicating what that inner world is. They have a hard time speaking their truth, they have a hard time expressing their emotions, they have a hard time putting their thoughts into words that could be understood by another person. So, they have this inner reality that no one around them is aware of. And what happens is, then you start to feel a separation that “I’m not being authentic to me”, “I don’t have the relationships that I want”, “I don’t have the career that I want”, “I don’t have the friends that I want”, “I’m not being met”, and you become resentful. Maybe you’re even getting shame around not feeling authentic in your life, and then that begins to putrefy, it adds, and adds, and you get more and more in that shame and that guilt, and that sadness, and that feeling unmet bucket, and then it becomes your life and then you become more distant, and more avoidant, and more unable to express your truth, when really, what you needed was to share it, that’s why they say it “The truth will set you free”. It truly does! Because when you’re able to share your truth, you’re able to let your inner reality be expressed and experienced through others, and that’s the first step into taking action and now making that your life’s work.
So, if you are wanting to move, if you are wanting a different job, if you are wanting to be an entrepreneur, if you’re wanting deep relationships, you’re wanting deep friendships, all of that can only happen as a result of communication, because without it, no one else will know, you won’t be able to have those conversations, you won’t be able to share your gifts, your lessons, your experiences. So, all of the things that you really desire are on the other side of you opening up your throat chakra. And this is why this is the most important work that you can do.
So, now that you know how important it is to communicate and speak your truth, let’s talk about the importance of the voice.
So, your voice is your calling card, it’s literally the expression of your soul. If you look at sound, sound is consistent of vibrational patters that reflect in our ear drums, so we are actually sending waves back and forth with people. So, if you’ve ever worked with a sound bowl, you can actually see that vibration happening. If you put sand inside, you can see, and often times, you’ll actually create sacred geometry. And there’s so much wisdom when it comes to sound, and that’s why music is so healing, and certain hertz of music can be healing or even damaging. So, there’s so much in this field, but sometimes we only think of sound as music or sound bowls, but your voice is also a sound healing.
Every person you have a conversation with, you are getting so much information about them through their voice. Through listening to my voice right now, you’re getting a lot of insight and information about me. Maybe you can feel how warm or how cold I am; maybe you can feel how grounded I am in my body; maybe you can feel my mood, if I’m joyful, if I’m sad, if I’m confused, if I’m lost; maybe you can feel, even, what chakras I’m connected with; maybe you can make some assumptions about what I’m like as a friend or what nationality I even am, where I come from in the world.
So, there’s so much that we’re getting from hearing someone’s voice, and that’s why, when you’re in communication with someone, most of the conversation is non-verbal. And non-verbal consists, also, of the quality of the voice, because when I say verbal, I’m talking about the physical words that we’re using, what I’m saying. But much of what you’re receiving from what I’m saying is how I’m saying it.
So, I can be having this exact same conversation like this, and be talking like this the whole time and be giving you the exact same information, but you’re going to be receiving it in a totally different way.
Or, I could be having more of this kind of tone when I talk, and I think, maybe, you would not listen to the Podcast anymore.
Or, I could be like this, and I could explain myself, how the voice is the calling card and how you must speak with soul if you want to be here.
Or, I could talk a little bit more like this, which is, kind of how my grandma talks, because she’s Persian, and it sounds a little different, okay?!
So, you can see, obviously, I’m even doing some accents, I’m making fun of myself. But the way that we speak says so much about us. I could deliver the exact same conversation in many different ways and all of the ways are going to be received differently.
And this is why our voice is so important, because what we often see happen on social media is, we see people, they make these reels and they’re pointing at the things, like “Do you want a successful coaching business? Believe in yourself!”, and you just hear Taylor Swift in the background, you don’t hear the person’s voice, you don’t know anything about them, and then you don’t trust them, because we gain trust through others, through hearing their voice. This is why, when you listen to someone’s music a lot, or you listen to someone’s podcast a lot, you feel like you know them because their voice is, like, in your ears, and it’s pretty personal. Like, every time I meet you guys, you guys are like “I feel like I know you”, I’m like “I feel like I know you too! Let’s hang out!”, because you do, because you’re hearing my voice consistently, and you’re hearing how it grows and changes. Like, even after moving through this divorce, my voice has, like, deepened to another level because I’ve deepened to another level. So, you’re even feeling these shifts in a person’s growth journey, through listening to their voice.
So, this is why it’s imperative for you to share your voice, because you’re never going to get the clients and customers that you want, if you don’t share your voice. No one is hiring their coach because the reel is fabulous. I mean, the reel can be fabulous, but we also need to hear your voice, we need to hear what you sound like, not just reading it. Because anyone can sound great through writing something down, but to actually hear it be received through someone’s voice, which means that it can’t be planned, it can’t be scripted, it can’t be copy/pasted from someone else, but they have to be embodying it, is going to allow you to decide “Do I trust this person?”, “Do I want to work with this person?”, “Do I feel a connection to this person?”
And there’s no right or wrong way, some people’s voices will connect with other people in the ways that others won’t, just like music. I might love Afro beats music and you might not, you might love Marilyn Manson, I might not, doesn’t mean one of them has a better voice than the next (I might say differently), but it just means we have different tastes. So, don’t feel shame around your voice, and I’ll talk about some stories that we have around our voices, but the most important thing is, your voice is a calling card of who you are today. And if you want to attract the clients that you want to work with, if you want to be seen and heard, you need to be sharing your voice, especially on social media, because social media really is our business card of today’s world. And your voice is the business card of your inner world, right? Because your voice is that business card that you’re handing people, that it’s like “Here I am expressed into reality”, and then, social media is like “Here I am, expressing this 2-dimensional technological plain”.
For example, even if I go to a hotel, I go on social media and I look up that hotel’s pictures. They have a website, they have a gallery on the website, they have TripAdvisor, all the things, but I want to go on their social media because I want to know what they’re putting out about themselves. And the same thing happens when you’re hiring a coach, a healer, a guide, any form of thing, you want to go on their social media because you want to know what are they putting out about themselves, what’s their essence, what’s their vibe, that’s their energy. And if you don’t see or hear their voice on there, you’re not going to really build a connection with them. You might read things, and things might be good, but are you going to trust them enough to book that discovery call? Probably not.
So, the missing link in your business of why, maybe, you haven’t been able to get the clients that you want, the attraction that you want, the following that you want, is likely because you’re just not sharing your voice enough. So, this is why sharing your voice is imperative if you want to do any kind of thought-leader work, whether it’s coaching, writing a book, writing a podcast, speaking on stages, we better be hearing your voice day in and day out, because that is how we build a connection with you. And the more you share your voice, the more you practice, the more you listen to your voice, and the more your voice gets defined.
So, now, let’s get a little bit specific about the voice, and I really dive into this in the Speak with Soul Course, like, I talk about the texture of the voice, the quality, and the sound, and the intonation, I really geek out about this stuff!
But when we’re hearing someone’s voice, we’re essentially hearing where they’re at in their embodiment. And for us to have a more grounded, warm, inviting voice, we must go through our own embodiment.
So, there are certain practices that we can do to drop further into our root, further into our sacral, so we’re speaking less from the head and more from the body.
So, have you ever heard someone that has a more nasally voice, like this? I’m sure you can imagine what chakra it’s related to. It’s totally up here in the head, it’s all up in the third eye, it’s so interesting and so cool. That’s why, like, you know, for example, being in Bali, or even in LA, often times, it’s like, the people who feel very disembodied of like [inaudible-16:08], the voice gets really high because that’s just where their energy is.
But when you even hear me, [hear me do this], it’s like, you start to get a little bit uncomfortable because you get on the edge of your seat, because we mimic other people’s voices. So, when someone feels really disembodied, they’re heady and they’re going like this and you don’t know where it’s going to go, it’s like, you will start to feel that way, whether you’re conscious of it or not.
Now, when we drop in and we really speak from an embodied state, and we let our words be deliberate, relaxed, spacious, we create that experience for the person that we are speaking with. Not being afraid of the sacred pause, because it’s in those sacred pauses that the words ground in, for them to be fully received and experienced, not just listened to, but experienced.
And often, when we don’t feel confident in our speaking, we start speaking a lot faster, we start filling in all the sounds, we start going [inaudible-17:31] my voice is up here, like a helium balloon. When really, wouldn’t we have so much more spaciousness, and groundedness, and ability to be deliberate with our words, if we let ourselves drop in and move a little slower.
And notice now, when I’m speaking from the space, you settle in a little more, you hold onto my words a little tighter because there aren’t a million of them coming out you per hour, and you really start to listen.
So, the very thing that we are desiring when we are nervous and we start to speak fast, we actually push it away, because when we’re going so fast, that person can’t keep up with us and feels that nervous energy and we lose the connection.
And often times, we’re so focused on the words that we forget the embodied experience that we are in, that we are putting that person in. So, instead, tuning into the body’s wisdom, speaking from a place of groundedness, of rootedness, and then being the transmission of that energy that you desire to express. Maybe it’s a really bold and empowered energy, or maybe it’s a really peaceful and compassionate energy, or maybe it’s a really sensual energy, inviting, or maybe it’s just a deep, rooted anchor.
And as you play with your voice, you can notice, just from your tone, your energy that you sit in, the words will naturally come across, expressing that exact emotion and vibration, without you even consciously needing to think about it. And that’s what creates an interesting speaker, someone who is dynamic, who can take us up here and then bring us down there, because then, we’re along on the journey.
You know, there’s nothing more boring than a monotone speaker and they’re just like this and you’re getting really bored because every word sounds the same and it’s pretty much no emotion and nothing really going on here.
But instead, when you listen to someone who’s taking you on a journey through their words and you never know what’s going to happen next, you’re on the edge of your seat, you’re there with them and you can feel yourself being guided on this journey that you never know what’s going to unfold, and you’re inspired to see the world in a higher place, you’re inspired to take action, to live a different life, to see a different point of view, to take on a different perspective, because that person took you in on that journey.
And this is the power of the voice! This is why speaking with soul is the most important work that we can do because we create a calibration shift for others, we help people see the higher truth that is inside of themselves, we help share stories that need to be heard, we help alchemize the painful experiences into our lives so we can help those that are going through them right now, walk through them with more ease and grace, it is the highest service. And if you know you are here to speak with soul, that it is part of your dharma, your soul’s purpose, often times, the chakra that we have the most blockages in, is the one that we have our greatest power in.
So, the fact that you even decided to listen to this Episode, the fact that you might have some type of feeling like “I feel like I’m meant to speak, but it’s my biggest fear”, shows you that’s exactly where your work is, because you wouldn’t have the fear if there wasn’t the freedom. The reason why you have that fear is because you know how powerful you are on the other side, it’s because you know when you unlock this channel, you are unstoppable. And that’s why you’re scared, because your ego is grasping for comfort, because it knows when you unlock your throat, there’s so much awaiting you on this other side, so much change, and upleveling, and growth, that your ego is like “Oh my god, I can’t even take it, so let’s just suffocate”.
And in the course, we go through the stories that you might have received from childhood, “I have an annoying voice”, “I don’t want to be heard”, “No one wants to listen to me”, and we heal them so they no longer carry forth in our lives, silencing and suffocating us, and holding us back from being the thought-leaders that we are here to be in this paradigm shift.
So, if you are ready to speak with soul, I invite you to join me in my Speak with Soul program. And even more than that, even if you don’t join the program, I invite you to just start speaking. Go on Instagram Live, record a video of yourself, go to your local library, hey, give a talk to your cousins, just start sharing, because you have such wisdom in your heart that can help so many people, and it’s not going to when it’s all locked in the attic of your mind.
So, please, please, please, start sharing. The world needs more stories, the world needs more important heart-felt messages that inspire and take us to a greater place, the world needs your alchemy. So, please, start sharing it.
So, if you’re curious to learn more with me in the Speak with Soul program, you can find it available at speakwithsoulcourse.com, that link is also available in the show notes. We have a special discount, since it just launched right now, it’s a 21-day course, every day, about 10-20 minutes a day, so it’s really easy, you can do it with your busy schedule. I give you practices every single day, you can do it from your phone, your computer, it’s something that you will literally take action on and find yourself as a stronger speaker than you ever have in your entire life because let’s be real, have you ever actually focused on your speaking before?
And it’s crazy, because it’s the most important thing in our lives. Like, we are speaking constantly, to friends, to colleagues, to customers, to clients, but besides, maybe like, a public speaking course in high school, have we ever actually worked on it? No. And then we wonder why we don’t feel confident, because we’ve never actually looked at it. We’ve never actually dissected “How do I tell a story?”, “What is the story arch?”, “What kind of tone and texture does my voice give out?”, “What kind of speakers inspire me?”, “How can I connect with my audience more?”, “How can I use the sacred pause?”, these are all things they teach you in the course.
And in 21 days, you will have looked more into your speaking than you probably ever have in your entire life. And just the level of conversation and connection and authenticity you’re going to have, is exponentially going to increase because you’re able to communicate. You’re going to have those connections with people, you’re going to have those opportunities that you’ve been waiting for, because you’re finally able to express what is already in your heart. And as you express it, you open yourself up to receive more.
It has been my life’s greatest blessing and greatest gift and the thing I feel most passionate about sharing with others. So, I invite you to join me in the Speak with Soul Course, I’m so excited to see the magic that it unfolds within you. And thank you, again, so much for tuning into today’s Episode.
If you loved this Episode, please leave a review for it on the iTunes Store, and I will send you my Free Womb Meditation as a gift. You can head over to Apple Podcasts, leave a review for the Podcast, take a screenshot and then send it over to me at [email protected] and you can find that email in the show notes as well as the speakwithsoulcourse.com link.
Thank you so much for tuning in and I’ll see you in the next one!
Episode #482: How To Open Up Your Throat Chakra + Speak with Soul with Sahara Rose
By Sahara Rose