Three and a half years ago, I realized I needed a radical life change. I didn’t have a career I loved, I didn’t have friendships who inspired me, I wasn’t in a relationship that fulfilled me, I didn’t have a true home or community. I knew there was more to life- that you could have all these things- but knew that I needed to make some major shifts to get there.
So I bought a one-way ticket to Bali and found this Air B&B at a Balinese person’s house in the jungle where there was not a single foreign person and decided to spend some time there to clear my head.
At first it was extremely hard. I was isolated and no one around me spoke English. My phone fell in that very waterfall and I had no communication with the outside world (which obviously drove my family insane.)
But it was exactly what I needed— to rip myself apart from society so I could begin to question which beliefs were truly mine and which I had taken on from someone else.
Over the next four months in Bali, I rethought everything- my relationship to money, purpose, men, friendships, freedom, truth, family.
I realized that the stories I was playing in my head, “I need to find a corporate job,” “My husband needs to support me,” “Life is sacrifice,” “The purpose of life is just to survive,” “Only one in a million can become a published author,” were exactly what was holding me back.
So I threw them away, into that waterfall with my phone, and washed away any lingering fears that were holding me back from being my highest self… and that’s when my world as I knew it fell apart.
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Yesterday I received tests back from my Doctor letting me know I had adrenal fatigue, which is caused by being in a state of constant stress (hello managing an online education business while writing a book while promoting another one while podcasting while posting on social media all day.)
Today in my yoga class, I received the message that now that my upcoming book Eat Feel Fresh is written and I’m heading to India to shoot the photography and film a pilot for an upcoming travel show, it’s time to drop my phone back in the theoretical waterfall.
The truth is we live in a world with way too much noise and that is keeping us from reaching our truths.
Never before have we lived in a time where we are constantly so distracted. We look at our phones and see thousands of images, stories, outfits, abs, hairdos, couples, break-ups, scandals and all other things which have nothing to do with our lives. And it’s not natural. We were not meant to know so much about what is going on with everyone at every moment. We were not meant to look down at our phones and have 30 emails and texts to respond to each hour. It’s anxiety-evoking, numbing and keeps us from becoming our highest selves.
We don’t even know what it’s like to be bored anymore. Every time we are waiting for an elevator or in line, we pick up our phones to distract us. But what we don’t realize is that moment of genius come in those moments of boredom. Think of all the imaginative visions you’d create in your mind as a child sitting in the car staring out the window. We no longer allow ourselves to have those bored moments because we feel like every moment should be distracted by content.
I encourage you to also take a good look at your social media habits and perhaps take a break this holiday season so you can be more present with your loved ones and most importantly, yourself.
There are apps you can download Moment that will track how much time you spend on your phone. I am EMBARRASSED to even say how much time I was spending on mine (think 4-7 hours.. that’s a full-time job.)
We don’t realize how dependent we are to these little things in our hands. The average person picks up their phone over 100x a day. Let’s pick up a book, a conversation, a memory, something with more value than hitting refresh on our home page.
As we spend hours a day scrolling, we don’t realize what we are truly seeking to stumble upon already exists within us.
And to all content creators—imagine the amazing high-quality evergreen content you could create such as books, podcasts and videos that you could create in the time you spend on social media, content that has the shelf-life of about 3 seconds.
Cheers to a new year with more clear, focused intentions (and less time on the Gram!)
Be sure to continue tuning to Highest Self Podcast each Monday while I’m in India!
Next week’s episode: Part 2 of my Story— How I Got to Where I am
The following week: How To Create a Thriving Yoga Business Online and in the World Interview with Brett Larkin
The week after: Making Blogging Your Business with the Healthy Maven Davida Kugelmass
The next week: Understanding Your Chakras From a Vedic Perspective with me, Sahara Rose
Namaste and wishing you a mindful holiday season!